About a month ago, John and I were driving home from dinner and I noticed the car in front of us had a bumper sticker in support of a proposition - Prop 8.
If you're not from California, this proposition would eliminate the right for same-sex couples to marry.
Now, with one day to go before the election, there's tons of houses with "Yes on Prop 8" signs ... but that very first bumper sticker I saw was SO shocking because I was really surprised that a person would want to proclaim hate on the back of their car. I mean, I know there's a lot of people who have issues with their thoughts on homosexuality but I thought they wouldn't be PROUD to let the whole world know about their bigotry. I mean, keep it a secret and get over your issues on your own time! Don't share your hatred with the world!
But now the signs are everywhere. I always get depressed driving home from work because all I see are "McCain" and "Yes on Prop 8" signs. Not to be melodramatic, but every sign is like a stab to my heart. OK, maybe that's exaggerating, but every sign I see just brings me down a little bit more. I am seriously always grumpy by the time I get home. I can't even imagine what it's like for a gay person to see those signs personally attacking them. Ugh. It's sick.
On Sunday I had an Ashley Forrette moment when John and I were waiting on a street corner at a red light and were surrounding by demonstrators with "Yes on Prop 8" signs. And just like Ashley's experience, there were tons and tons of kids out there waving signs. Younger than teenagers -- at least teenagers have a teeny bit of life experience and have been around the world a few spins to somewhat make up their minds about issues. These kids were seriously age 6,7,8,9, 10. Ugh. It made me SO MAD that their parents forced them to spend their weekend screaming on a street corner, spewing hate. If you want to teach your kids some morals and something about values, why don't you take your kids to a soup kitchen or to clean up a river?! If you're going to volunteer for a cause, use your time to make the world a better place, not fill the world with more bigotry! Just so sad these kids are being taught to hate and not to accept others that are different from them. And maybe some of these kids are actually gay -- and they're being taught self loathing. UGHGHHGHGHG.
Of course I couldn't resist saying something to these people ... and although, just like Ashley, I wanted to shout out some choice words and tell them how they were total losers, I tried to hold back and not scream anything hateful. So I rolled down my window and shouted "Don't hate!" "Don't judge!" And guess what this dad, standing there with a bunch of young kids, said back to me: "Who are we hating?" OMG. So stupid. Good comeback, mister. See, the dude had nothing to say, because they WERE hating gays. They WERE judging others.
You know what's so dumb though? I bet that guy doesn't think he's hating people. Oh no, the demonstrators are doing this to "protect marriage"! "This isn't about gays -- don't worry, they can have civil unions." No. No. No.
Dude, don't you remember the whole "separate but equal" thang the U.S. had going on back in the day ? Which was ruled unconstitutional with Brown v. Board of Education?! Well, prop 8 isn't fair either! Why should two consenting adults who LOVE and respect each other not be allowed to get married?! WHY?! There's no logical reason at all. All a law like that would do is write hatred into the state constitution.
Like Ashley pointed out in her post, "This is NOT a political issue, this is a civil rights issue."
And what about the 1967 case Loving v. Virginia? Before Virginia's anti-miscegenation statute, the "Racial Integrity Act of 1924", was declared unconstitutional, it was illegal for a white person to marry another non-white person. Crazy to think that a little over 40 years ago, it would have been illegal for John and I to have gotten married.
How is this issue any different?! If two consenting single adults want to get married, they should be allowed to. No ifs, ands or buts.
And for all those people protesting gay marriage, waving their signs in support of prop 8 -- what is the reasoning behind their beliefs? That it's immoral because the Bible says being homosexual is wrong?!
1. First of all, this is a secular country, there is no state religion. There is supposed to be a separation of church and state. So leave the Bible out of it.
2. Really, it's not that these people are against gay marriage, I truly believe they're against people being gay in general. Well, a proposition is not going to change a person's sexual orientation. Sorry, folks. Whether this proposition passes or not, some people are still going to be gay and if they can't get married, well, they will still be leaving together, loving one another.
So I think this prop is just plain mean. When two people love one another, they want the chance, just like every one else, to have a ceremony with their friends and family there, where they can declare their love and commitment to each other. Why should a gay person not deserve to exchange rings with their sweetie just like a straight person?
Oh yeah, besides all the legal rights that come along with it, like a tax cut and the right to visit your loved one in the hospital and all that jazz.
If you want to read a super intelligent blog post about all the crazy misinformation that's going on with scare tactic ads regarding Prop 8, please check out Steph's post here. This blog post is getting WAY too long for me to even get into that ridiculousness.
Oh yeah, and back to the whole "protecting marriage" BS -- OMG! Beyond stupid. If people want to protect marriage, why don't they work on combating the super high divorce rate? Or make marriage counseling mandatory? Or what about working on other issues affecting marriage like alcoholism, drug abuse, spousal abuse and even poverty?!
UGH! Before people start pointing fingers telling other people how to live their lives, judging their relationships, maybe they should start working on their own marriages?!??!
Sooo as you all know, the election is tomorrow, Nov. 4. Ahhh! I can't wait.
If you read Ashley's post, she asked her Catholic mother to vote No on Prop 8. And guess what? Ashley's momma came through! She voted No! Woo!!!
I'm gonna quote Ashley here ... (man, I'm being SO lazy with this post. But hey, Ashley said it best!)
"I was ecstatic! You see, one phone call can make a difference! So I'm asking you Cali peeps one more time, regardless of your views on marriage, to say NO to discrimination by voting NO on 8. If there is one thing this world needs more of, it's love."
Although this post I'm trying to somehow wrap up was really poorly written and thrown together, I just had to get my thoughts out before the election or I think I was going to go nuts.
So please, California peeps, follow Ashley's advise, and call your friends and family tonight and ask them to vote No on Prop 8 tomorrow. Do it for couples like my friend Jim and his BF Eric. Do it for Ashley's friend Megan who just got married to her girl Ginger. (Ash photographed the wedding. Check out Ashley's mad photography skills here. The pictures are so sweet and SO full of love.)
Vote NO for all of us, straight, bi or gay, so we can live in a country where there is love and tolerance for all, where all of us have equal rights and nobody is discriminated against.
See you at the polls tomorrow!
p.s. You gotta check this out! It's too good.